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About – Deborah Moskovitch

The Smart Divorce — for a happier, healthier future

Move forward with focus, hope and confidence

Divorce is a process.This blog was created to inform, educate and empower you to think about all aspects of divorce; from the emotional and legal divorce to parenting, dating, creating a better life postdivorce and so on.Tips, ideas and information about divorce are offered throughout.

My name is Deborah Moskovitch and I went through a seven-year battle that nearly overwhelmed me emotionally and financially. Now I am using my experience, as well as insights that I have garnered from top divorce lawyers, financial advisers, counselors and other experts to help people get a “smart divorce,” as they move through life post-divorce and to advise them on how to position themselves for a better life and move on. I am a divorce coach, helping people choose their lawyers, strategize their approach to divorce, and deal with the negative emotions that can make divorce worse than it has to be. My goal is to help people manage the divorce process in a healthier and happier way.

Based on extensive research through personal interviews with leading divorce professionals across North America, I wrote the book The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and Valuable Advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and Other Experts (Chicago Review Press, July, 2007). The Smart Divorce is available wherever books are sold,,, and many other webseller book sites.

Use this blog as your resource.I have identified many sites which are an excellent source of information. I invite you to post your comments and share your thoughts. I look forward to hearing from you.

To learn more about The Smart Divorce visit

The information contained in The Smart Divorce website, blog, The Smart Divorce ToolKit, any and all resources is general in nature and does not constitute authoritative legal advice or psychological counsel. Laws vary according to state or jurisdiction and may have been amended since publication. The Smart Divorce resources should be used only in consultation with a licensed lawyer who is properly familiar with the specific legal matter in question. To acquire specific legal advice you need to seek the counsel of a qualified family law lawyer. To acquire psychological counsel, you will want to consult with a qualified psychological specialist.

20 thoughts on “About – Deborah Moskovitch

  1. Deborah, this is a great site, thank you. I would like some insight to any precedence regarding inheritance and alimony. It is my understanding that any inheritance that is kept out of the marriage (I am separated, filing for divorce) is not part of the “equation”. My ex has tried and will try again when we sit down to renegotiate the alimony to bring in this money.

    Our parenting and separation agreement has been signed for two years and will be up in Aug./08. I was married for 7 1/2 years, lived together one year so in total just over 8 years. I have been informed that I will receive up to 5 years of alimony. While I do expect that it may go down how do I keep the inheritance money out of it. Is there precendence for this??

    On a completely different note, I do speaking to women called: TO BE OR NOT TO BE THAT IS THE CHOICE. It is my journey over the last decade, in self-discovery and encouraging and challenging women to make changes in their life, if she chooses that will honour and love her; helping her find her truth. I would love to talk to you more and see if there is a way that I can impact the lives of the women that you touch to tell them YOU CAN DO IT!

    Thank you for your time,

    Sandra Finkelstein

  2. Dear Sandra,

    Great question. This is exactly why you need to consult with an experienced family law lawyer who can explain the law to you in your jurisdiction. You should expect to learn what to do -and what not to do. Two hours of a lawyer’s time might save you hundreds or more dollars and much heartache in the long run.

    Good luck.

  3. Could you recommend a divorce consultant in my area? I live in Northern Ca. south of Sacramento and east of San Francisco – I can travel either direction I live in stockton. Thank you

  4. Thank you for your inquiry. As I am a divorce educator, with resources and colleagues across North America, I do provide a teleconference option for The Smart Divorce consulting service. For more information, please call: 1-866-695-0270.

  5. First, I must compliment the tremendous job you are doing. You help people and it is obvious you love doing it.
    I’m a lawyer, but I’m one of the good guys. I have something to say that the public needs to hear. My message provides divorcing spouses with the exact words their soon-to-be exes must hear them say if they hope to minimize the pain and cost of their divorce.

    I am a mediator, a collaborative divorce practitioner, and a staunch advocate of the settlement approach to divorce; but this is not enough. Society has not taught us how to interact with our partner during the other 22 hours a day – when the pros are not present to help us communicate. This is where I can help, but I am brand new at this. This is my first time EVER blog comment and you are the first person I am contacting.

    My insights help people. They are eye opening, proven effective, pure of heart, and are based on Harvard’s interest based negotiation model.(Did I mention long-awaited?) I hope to share what I have learned with you and your laudable website and blog. You are the frst person I am approaching. I do not know where to start, and I ask you to please help me help people.

    Please take a peek at my work to check out its potential value to your readership.

    Richard Kulerski

    P.S. I am happy to send you a hard cover or ebook, and I ask for your address(es).
    It is one thing to want a sensible divorce, but it quite another thing to know precisely what to do to get one. I have stumbled upon the answer.

    • Richard: Please send email to above address. I will share your information with clients who may require assistance. Of course I can accept no liability as to outcomes, but it is always good to have a battery of contact points when clients ask for help in regard to areas outside my (near 30 years) own expertise.

      Carolyne L
      Carolyne Realty Corp.

  6. For a separate reality check, see

    Make the courthouse the last stop, not the first.

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  8. I just wanted to let everyone know about this site that I just came across. It looks like people who are divorced share their settlements and divorce info with people who are going through a divorce and people who are contemplating divorce.
    Very cool.

  9. Getting Divorced? –
    (and – Should you Sell the house? or Buy out your Spouse?)

    As I encounter many clients who are selling the matrimonial home as the result of a marriage breakdown, and having been through the process myself, I wrote an article to include among the many consumer education articles relative to real estate that I have written over the years, specific to questions that often need to get asked at or before divorce time.

    Carolyne L
    Carolyne Realty Corp.

  10. Hello Carolyne, Could we talk? I am in the relatively new field of specializing in real estate divorce. Technically, I am a Certified Real Estate Divorce Specialist, trained in the legal and tax aspects of real estate as they pertain to divorcing couples.

    For lack of a better term, I describe my approach as holistic. a) I perform the basic functions of a realtor; b) I look for ways to either save money for divorcing couples & keep the divorce more equitable; c) I know exactly what they are going through because I have been there myself. I understand them; d) I worked on myself for 20 years to truly understand myself; and, more important, learn to like myself. The wait was worth it. I just celebrated my 2 yr anniversary last week. I got it right this time.

    One of my real values is in reducing the drama for everyone involved.

    • Hi Randy,
      What state are you in? My name is ShaRon and I live in Arizona. Iam starting a business teaching parenting class to families going through divorce – cooperative parenting when children are in your family. I see you have a holistic approach in your Realy business. I would like to explore how we can help both our clients. Would you be willing to talk?

  11. Yes, of course we can talk, Randy – being in the same business. Thank you for asking. Don’t know how since this in not my blog. It belongs to the owner.
    If you follow my url, noted herein,above – don’t know if it appears?( ) you can email me from there and I will reply.


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  13. Dear Debbie, I would love to be a guest on your Divorce Source Radio show. I’m the mother of a Korean adoptee (now age 37) who suffered greatly when her father and I separated and divorced. She was a teenager at the time. The fallout truly impacted her. This may be a subject you have yet to explore – the lasting effects of divorce on foreign-born children who are adopted into American families.

    Professionally, I am the author of a novel titled Former Things (a story about a mother and daughter who are estranged for 20 years). I am also a staff reporter for two newspapers in Greater Boston.

    Thanks, and all the best,
    Gail Lowe

  14. A professionally maintained blog of divorce lawyers can really help in getting basic guide for those who are in search of an experienced divorce lawyer. Good start…

  15. Divorce and separation means change and events happening that are out of your control. You can embrace the change and look forward to a new beginning. Perhaps a change in career as well as marital status – lots of people use forced change to implement wanted change as well.

  16. When is your book “Children and Divorce: The Effects of Abandonment and Estrangement: Understanding the Consequences, The Importance of Healing, And a Chance to Reconnect.” expected to come out?

    • Hello,

      Thanks for asking. I am still researching this book, and there is so much valuable information and stories to tell that it is taking a significant amount of time. As a result, it will take at least another year to complete. I’m sorry that it won’t be ready earlier. If you need some assistance, I would be pleased to refer you to professionals who could help. Please contact me at or by calling my office at 905 695 0270.


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