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Moving on When Your Ex Has Moved On

The following article recently appeared in the Huffington Post

This article first appeared on more.ca http://www.more.ca/relationships/single-life/when-your-ex-has-someone-new/a/18818

“How could I have been replaced so quickly!” my friend Beth wondered.

We were discussing her husband’s soon-to-be new wife; she felt shock and disbelief as to how he could find a new “serious” partner so soon after their divorce.

Our ex-spouses’ new partners was the focus of discussion one afternoon with my friends and I, while keeping Beth company. Her children were out — at their father’s (and Beth’s ex-husband’s) wedding.

While none of us were jealous or angry about our ex’s new partners, we all certainly had different feelings about the matter.

Mary, the introspective one in the group, had a very objective opinion. She was happy for her ex’s new union and actually felt “lucky.” Her reasons were practical: “I didn’t think that my ex could handle the kids on his own, his girlfriend is a nice person and is good to the kids.”

To read the whole article and view comments click on the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deborah-moskovitch/moving-on-when-your-ex-ha_b_1010219.html


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Finding Your Bliss After Divorce

For those residing in the Toronto area..Stay tuned this Wednesday, November 23rd at 7 pm for “FINDING YOUR BLISS AFTER DIVORCE” On ROGERS TV (Channel 10 in Toronto, 63 in Scarborough) Great show, with amazing prizes, giveaways and excellent guests, coaches and authors who are here to coach you on life after divorce. Please give us a call at 416-446-7090. The first two callers win great prizes including 4 CD’s from The Smart Divorce ToolKit and and a half hour one-on-one complimentary consultation with Divorce author and consultant Deborah Moskovitch!


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Find a Problem Solving Divorce Attorney, Not a Conflict Creator

Our guest  on The Smart Divorce on Divorce Source radio , Mark Baer (http://www.markbaeresq.com) is a family law attorney, mediator, and collaborative law practitioner in Pasadena, California and has been practicing for twenty years.  He received a great deal of media attention regarding his opinions that the family law system in the United States destroys families and his views on better and more constructive ways of handling such matters.  His articles have appeared in Forbes, The Los Angeles Daily Journal and Valley Lawyer Magazine.   Columnists from the Pasadena Star-News, the Los Angeles, Times and other newspapers use Mark as a resource for their columns.

Problem solving is a hallmark of a good lawyer.  We explore this outlook and learn what you need to consider when looking for a lawyer.  To learn more, Mark has written the must read article Things to Consider in Order to Select an Attorney Who is a Problem Solver and Not a Conflict Creator (http://www.markbaeresq.com/Pasadena-Family-Law-Blog/2011/September/Things-to-Consider-in-Order-to-Select-an-Attorne2.aspx)

Topics in this program include:

  • What is a problem solving lawyer
  • What is a problem creator lawyer
  • Finding your problem-solving lawyer
  • How to look for a mediator that’s right for you
  • Problems with lawyers and the legal system

To listen in click on this link

http://www.divorcesourceradio.com/find-a-problem-solving-divorce-attorney-not-a-conflict-creator/


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The Post Divorce Dating Game

The following article recently appeared in the Huffington Post

Children often have difficulty with a divorced parent’s first move into the dating world. Many children, no matter how old, fantasize about mommy and daddy getting back together and becoming part of one big happy family again. While deep down your children know fantasy will likely not become a reality, moving on to the next chapter of your life requires balance and sensitivity.

When Barbara Steinman* first started dating again, she found “dating was exciting and took up a lot of time. I didn’t have balance in my life. I was going out a lot and then realized I had to pull back and spend more time at home with my kids.”

Steinman says she also felt self-conscious, wondering what other people would think of her.

“After being married for so many years I hadn’t thought of myself in terms of being appealing to men in a relationship or sexual sense, rather than as friends.”

To read the whole article, click on the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deborah-moskovitch/getting-into-the-post-div_b_1010925.html


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How You Can Divorce With Focus, Hope and Confidence

The Smart Divorce®  ToolKit

Get Through Your Divorce While Saving Time, Money – and Your Sanity!

Get through your divorce as you save time, money – and your sanity! One low price gives you the complete Smart Divorce ToolKit – Smart Audios and Smart Guides – a cost-effective way to reduce stress as you  manage the divorce process.
Whatever your frame of mind or situation at this stage of your divorce, The Smart Divorce ToolKit is a one-of-a-kind tool that will help you gain clarity, perspective and a smarter next step. This valuable resource provides education, tools and strategies to help you be smart about your divorce while moving on to a happier, healthier future.

Information is Knowledge and Knowledge is Power

Endorsed by judges, lawyers and mental health professionals, The Smart Divorce ToolKit provides guidance and information from leading family law lawyers, mental health professionals, and parenting experts, well versed on the needs of those in the divorce process. This one smart package makes it uncomplicated and effortless to understand.

The Smart Divorce Audios

As an introduction to The Smart Divorce approach in an easy to absorb format, The Smart Divorce Audios provide the reassuring, insightful and non-judgmental information you need when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed.  Almost 3 hours of information!
Audio 1 – The Emotional Divorce
Audio 2 – The Legal Divorce
Audio 3 – Smart Co-Parenting: Putting Your Children’s Best Interests First
Audio 4 – Rebuilding Your Life Post Divorce

The Smart Divorce Smart Guides

The Smart Guides offer you easy-to-use tip sheets put together in one smart book that guides you through divorce specifics, covering a myriad of helpful topics. Empower yourself with information and knowledge. The Smart Guides offer quick summaries, checklists and memory ticklers to help keep you on track.

Smart Guides:

  • Planning for a Smart Divorce
  • Coping with the Stress of the Emotional Divorce
  • How to Increase Your Ability to Cope When Divorcing
  • The Power of Setting Realistic Expectations
  • Understanding Your Divorce Options
  • Finding a Good Divorce Lawyer
  • Understanding Marital Property Laws
  • Getting Your Finances Organized for Divorce
  • Financial Information Checklist
  • Important Financial Steps Required to Prepare for Divorce
  • Smart Co-Parenting
  • Living Separate and Apart
  • Strengthening the Blended Family Bonds

 

Buy just the topics you need, or get the whole ToolKit.  Prices start at the low price of $9.49!

Yes! I want to order The Smart Divorce®ToolKit. Available in hard copy or downloadable format at http://tinyurl.com/thesmartdivorceaudios or you may purchase only The Smart Divorce Smart Guides paperback or downloadable version at http://tinyurl.com/thesmartdivorcesmartguides  If you would like to learn more about this unique and innovative program, and how it may help you, please contact Deborah Moskovitch at The Smart Divorce by emailing info@thesmartdivorce.com, or call 905.695.0270.


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TV’s Divorce Court Celebrity Judge Lynn Toler with Thoughts on Divorce

Our guest, award winner and mentor, Judge Lynn Toler (http://judgelynn.com/toler_divorce_court/) is smart, talented and creative – and judge on one of television’s most successful courtroom drama series: DIVORCE COURT.

Judge Lynn Toler is a former municipal court judge who now hosts the nationally syndicated show, Divorce Court. She is also a bi-monthly contributor to News and Notes on NPR and became host of the prime time TV show Decision House in 2007. In 2006, Judge Lynn published her book, My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius. Praised as an “awe-inspiring memoir” by Essence Magazine, it not only chronicles her life as a child raised in the shadow of her father’s mental illness but provides practical advice for anyone seeking more and better emotional control

Having completed more than two thousand episodes, on DIVORCE COURT, Judge Lynn Toler turns up the heat on court shows in this half-hour, relationship oriented series. Viewers experience the drama firsthand as husbands and wives square off in real-life courtroom battles.  Judge Lynn shares her wisdom and insight of the legal process, how to have a much smarter divorce…..or even save your marriage.  And, she speaks of her mission to gain awareness about teen violence.

Topics in this program include:

  • How communicating better might help you avoid divorce
  • What a judge can and cannot do
  • The emotions of court; what to do to get a better resolution
  • The inherent unfairness of no fault divorce
  • The surprising truth about teen violence and what parents should be aware of Domestic violence – an explanation, coping and managing
  • The limits of the legal system
  • Intelligent mediation
To hear this fascinating interview click on the link:


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Ten Pre-Divorce Money Mistakes that can make a Big Difference in Your Post Divorce Future

Our guest, Lisa Decker (www.DivorceMoneyMatters.com) who is referred to as Miss Money Matters ® – is the CEO and founder of Divorce Money Matters®. Ms. Decker is an expert in divorce financial matters, and a discreet problem-solver who guides her clients to “Divorce Your Spouse, Not Your Money®.”  She has been interviewed by CNN, Good Morning America, NY Times, Business Week, CreditCards.com, ForbesWomen.com, and Oprah magazine.

The finances of divorce and how they are managed and worked through during the divorce process can significantly impact your post divorce future.  Tune in to understand the most common mistakes and what you can do to avoid them.

Topics in this program include:

  • How to make decisions based on facts, not emotions
  • How to create a realistic post-divorce budget
  • The impact of joint debts
  • Protecting your income streams
  • Considering the long-term consequences of your choices
  • Developing your dream divorce team
To listen in click on the link:


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Career Gals We Admire

I’ve been featured on the Canadian Career Gal Website as one of the career gals they admire.  I’m  honoured to have been selected to share my profile, please read on to see what I have to share.

http://canadiancareergal.blogspot.com/2011/11/gals-we-admire-deborah-moskovitch.html


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The Starting Over Show

The Smart Divorce Resource ToolKit will be available for sale at The Starting Over Show this weekend in Barrie, Ontario

“The Starting Over Show,” an event dubbed as Ontario’s first Divorce and Separation Expo is being staged to give separating and newly single people access to the professional services needed to move on with life.

“The Starting Over Show” will offer information on coping with stress, dealing with children and legalities and advice on various issues such as finances, credit counseling and property issues. It will be held at the Allendale Community Centre in Barrie Ontario on Saturday Nov 5 and Sunday Nov 6 2011.
For more information, click on the link http://startingovershow.blogspot.com/