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The anatomy of an affair

Tune into The Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio, to hear our guest Emily Brown explore affairs, and share her research and wisdom.

Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (; works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face, and one of the greatest challenges for helping professionals. Whether you are seeking assistance in your personal life or you are professional seeking information to better help clients, this is the show that provides the wisdom and guidance so many need.  Emily is the author of Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, and Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, and numerous articles on affairs.

Topics in this program include:

  • An in-depth look at the 6 different Affairs
  • How to rescue a marriage if there has been an Affair
  • Affair recovery: the process and insight
  • Debunking the myths and misconceptions about Affairs
  • Rebuilding trust
  • How to talk to your children about the Affair

To hear this informative interview, click on the link

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Dating after divorce

Tune into the Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio to hear this very informative interview on dating after divorce with our guest Delaine Moore.

Divorced mother of three Delaine Moore is an author, NLP Practitioner, speaker, and Licensed Mars Venus Life Coach, who specializes in divorce, dating, relationships and gender differences.  Since her own divorce in 2007, she has inspired thousands of divorced women to grab the next chapter of their lives by the horn and pursue passion on their own terms on her website, I Am Divorced Not Dead. Her memoir, A Woman’s Body Never Lies – which chronicles her wild, yet profound, ‘body-driven’ awakenings in the first after her divorce, was recently purchased by the feminist publisher, Seal Press, and is slated for release in Spring 2012.

Topics in the program include:

  • When is the right time to begin dating after divorce?
  • How not to make the same mistakes when seeking a new mate
  • Internet dating services, are they a good idea?
  • When to introduce your date to your children?
  • key ingredients of a “keeper”
  • Sex after divorce
  • And much more

Click on the link to hear Delaine share her thoughts on dating post-divorce and how much fun it can be.

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Divorce Stats, Fact and Myths

Tune in and watch my interview on Breakfast Television.  I speak with host Jennifer Valentyne about divorce, the impact on children, the friend dynamics when a couple breaks up and more.

My interview aired at 7:40 am, which is the second to last part of this segment.

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How Women Can Avoid Making Serious Financial Mistakes Before, During and After Divorce

Tune into the Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio to hear this very informative interview with financial strategist, Jeff Landers.  Although Jeff’s clients are women, the information contained in this interview is helpful for men as well.

Our guest, Jeffery Landers advocates for women. Jeff is a Divorce Financial Strategist and the founder of Bedrock Divorce Advisors, LLC, a divorce financial strategy firm that exclusively works with women, who are going through, or might be going through, a financially complicated divorce.  Jeff reviews the Top 6 Serious Financial Mistakes Women Make.  But, men can learn some valuable lessons here as well.  Jeff advises “put your emotions on the side and think financially.”

Topics in this program include:

  • The top 6 serious financial mistakes made during divorce
  • The important steps to organize your finances and maintain control
  • Preparing for your financial future
  • Financial considerations to ensure long term financial stability
  • How to avoid divorce settlement mistakes
  • Divorce proofing your business

Click on the link to hear Jeff share help you through the finances of divorce:

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Divorce: It’s All About Control

Tune into the Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio to hear this very informative interview with lawyer, Stacy Phillips.

Stacy D. Phillips, is a celebrity divorce lawyer extraordinaire.  She is the author of the best-selling book Divorce: It’s All About Control How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars; a certified family law specialist, and founder and the managing partner of Phillips Lerner & Lauzon LLP (  In this exclusive interview Stacy offers advice on how to cope with losing control and avoid common divorce battles.

Topics in this program include:

  • An overview of the anatomy of control
  • Managing and coping with control
  • Dealing with the emotional, psychological and legal wars
  • What’s a good client; and working more effectively with your lawyer
  • The major divorce considerations and what to think about
  • Fighting just to win, is it worth it?
  • How to deal with an inflexible ex

Click on this link to hear about managing and overcoming the control

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When a spouse comes out -new in the Huffington Post

I am thrilled to announce that I will be blogging for the Huffington Post.  All of these posts will also be posted to this blog as well.  This first blog is called “When a spouse comes out”; and I am proud to say it has had an phenomenal response.

To read the article, and view what readers had to say, please click on the link:

If you would like more information, then tune into this very insightful interview with Amity Buxton who I interview on The Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio.  Amity discusses the grieving and healing process the occurs when the disclosure is made that your partner is GLBT.

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Divorcing with Good Karma

Tune into the Smart Divorce on Divorce Source Radio to hear this very informative interview with Judge Michele Lowrance.

Positive. Life-enhancing. Enlightening. Compassionate. These words are seldom associated with divorce. Words that typically come to mind are: Painful. Agonizing. Resentful. Bitter.  Our guest, domestic relations judge and best selling author Judge Michele Lowrance enlightens listeners how people can attain a positive outlook, achieve forgiveness, and move on with a mended soul (  Judge Lowrance has learned that there’s a better way to handle divorce. So she came up with a plan to turn the negatives of divorce into positives. She explains the program in her book, The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life.

Topics in this program include:

  • On court: An understanding what the court system can and cannot do – it can’t rescue you, but perhaps it can encourage forgiveness.
  • On children: Ordinary parenting is not enough; parents need to adopt wisdom building skills for heroic parenting. Justice Lowrance asks:  “What is more important for you to be right, or for your children to be happy?”
  • On forgiveness: In the beginning, you won’t be ready to forgive. At this stage it is fine to let your emotions steep and give them room to breathe. Treat them like a flu that has to run its course. There is a necessary gestation period between anger and forgiveness.
  • Creating your soul searching party: developing your Personal Manifesto
  • The crucial things you have to know about having the “divorce conversation” with your soon to be former partner.

Click on the link to hear Judge Michele Lowrance explain what a good Karma Divorce is