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When women are better off divorced

Divorce is rich in opportunity to learn and grow from.  While it may be an ending to your marriage, it can be a new beginning to a fulfilling life.

An article appeared in the Toronto Sun talking about how some celebrities have shown strength during the divorce process, and have moved on valiantly.

I offer some tips in that article how to get your groove back, and move on to a better life post-divorce.

“Showing the world your happy face won’t only keep

the less sympathetic tabloids at bay, it could actually

change your whole perspective.”

Click on the link to view the full article.


An interview with Justice Harvey Brownstone

I was recently interviewed by the best selling author and sitting court judge, Justice Harvey Brownstone, on his show Family Matters.

People often ask me how I was able to move one despite the conflict I experienced throughout the divorce process.  I share tips and strategies about how to have The Smart Divorce, the trying times I experienced in the litigation process and much more.

Tune into Family Matters to listen to the full interview.

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Out of the closet: support for the straight spouse

Just because your spouse came out of the closet,

doesn’t mean you have to go in.

I have had several individuals in my divorce consulting practice tell me that their spouse declared they were gay. They felt alone – but this is not a rare event. While Canadian figures are not available, conservative estimates indicate that roughly two million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals in the United States have married someone of the opposite sex. When these partners come out of the closet, one third of these relationships break up right away, a third stay together for a year and then separate, and another third commit to making it work – although three years later, only half of this last group of relationships are still intact.

Please click on the click to read more and a reality check:

I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great tips that apply to both men and women. I’ve written many articles for this site. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link:

Getting through these issues and feelings, and effectively coping can take anywhere from 3 – 6 years to properly heal. Statistics indicate that it takes one year of healing for every five years of marriage. And, once this process takes place, for many, there is a realization that their partner really did marry them out of love, and not to hide in a closet — they fully intended to make it work. So, while these couples cannot be lovers, perhaps they can still be good friends.