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Mapping out a prenup

Many people think a prenuptial agreement is for the rich and famous.  However, there are many issues that the average person needs to consider and discuss with their new partner.  It’s an excellent opportunity to understand his/her financial perspectives and expectations before you get married.  Many people are afraid to have this important conversation as they fear it might ruin the relationship.  But, if you can’t talk about the important things and expect that things will just “work itself out” when married, it doesn’t always happen that way.  Don’t you want an understanding of how each other thinks, and ensure you are on the same page?

  1. Think of it as marriage/divorce insurance.  You want the marriage to work, but if it doesn’t you’ve protected yourself.
  2. The blended family dilemma.  You want your children to support your new marriage; however you want them to feel protected as well.
  3. What if you die? Without sounding morbid, it is a consideration……how you want your assets to be divided between your new partner and your children.

There are many other obvious considerations. A recent article in Canadian Business answers this very important question:

I’m about to get married for the second time. How do I ensure that my children and my new wife won’t ever have to duke it out over my estate after I’m gone?

Mapping out a prenup – Canadian Business Magazine


Hear Deborah again on “Guy Talk”

Have you hear about the radio show on Newstalk 1010 CFRB, “Guy Talk”?  You can hear it live on Sunday evenings from 9 pm-10pm.

Guy Talk is a radio show that deals with psychological issues which modern men face.   The underlying premise of Guy Talk rests in the question: Why Won’t Men Grow Up? The creator/hosts of Guy Talk are Dale Curd and Stuart Knight.

I’ve been invited to speak about The Smart Divorce and how to navigate the divorce process. November 1, 2009.  Tune in and feel free to call in with your views at 416 872 1010.  Although this show is targeted towards men, women are invited to call in as well.  I would be interested in hearing your perspective as we discuss the many issues divorcees are confronted with.

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Breaking up, a 5 part series

Nothing is in this world is perfect, and certainly not the legal system.  There are gaps in the system.  The challenge is to work beyond the gaps…….as one lawyer once told me, the legal system was designed for criminals and, divorce is not a criminal act.  So, given that perspective, I hope you can see why you should try to stay out of court.  Of course, there are always exceptions, and at times, one has no choice but to litigate.

There was a 5 part series in the Toronto Star, investigating some of the issues people are confronted with when dealing with the legal system.  What ever the issues, the bottom line is, there are problems, and that requires reforming the system.

I’ve attached links to the articles which may be of interest to you, my readers.  While you might not agree with everything in these articles, it certainly will make you pause and think………the reality is, divorce is a life changing event, and we need to view this as a process, not a crisis.  And, as I heard a lawyer so wisely say:

Divorce is a problem to be solved,

not a war to be won.

Here are the links to the articles:

Divorced dads can’t catch a break–divorced-dads-can-t-catch-a-break

The good divorce–the-good-divorce

Kids hard hit in nasty divorces–kids-hard-hit-in-nasty-divorces

Grandparents go to court for access to grandkids–grandparents-go-to-court-for-access-to-grandkids

Where separation occurs without anxiety–where-separation-occurs-without-anxiety

Of course, I always like to have the last word and comment.  My published letter to the editor, in response to the article entitled “Divorced dads can’t catch a break”, is below.

What’s the delay on shared custody?

Re: Breaking up: Family courts in crisis, Series

There are gaps in the legal system, leading to both fathers and mothers feeling that they are being treated unfairly. But, the real victims are the children who are losing out on a loving relationship with both parents, because of their parents’ conflict – who are too consumed with fighting each other, ignoring what’s in their children’s best interest.

Parents need to work together for the sake of the children, not against each other for vengeance, control and destruction of their ex partner.

Deborah Moskovitch, Divorce Consultant, Author, “The Smart Divorce”

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Get Your Justice Live Tonight with Deborah Moskovitch

Get Your Justice Live is an interactive internet talk radio show that focuses on reforming the judiciary, with a special focus on the anti-family courts within the United States.

Tune in live tonight with Get Your Justice Live with guest Deborah Moskovitch

Live Call Ins: 724-444-7444

Talk Cast Id: 39517

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To join the live chat simply follow this link: at 8PM EST or watch for the newsletter for the finished interview.

Tune in and listen live tonight to hear about The Smart Divorce

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Where Divorce Ends, Your Destiny Begins Telesummit



“Where Divorce Ends, Your Destiny Begins Telesummit” which will be taking place  Monday and Wednesday Evenings,  9:00 – 10:00 pm EST beginning on October 12, 2009.

The Telesummit I will be featuring 8 teleseminars with 8 leading experts in the field of moving forward during, through and after divorce.

I am the first featured guest on this telesummit.  Tune in tonight and learn what to expect about the emotional and legal aspects of divorce, so that you are better prepared to move forward with focus and confidence, while saving time and money.

Click on the link to reserve your free spot.