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Taking doom and gloom out of the divorce process

Taking the doom and gloom out of the divorce process can sound like a daunting process. But, it need not be if you are smart about your divorce.


With a smart divorce, you realize that the pain of divorce can be lessened dramatically by properly handling the competing emotional and legal sides of divorce. And, that you deal with the emotional side of divorce outside of the legal system. If you are able to do this then you are more likely to gain perspective on your legal options early on; this will assist you in making informed decisions, protect you from the damage that uncontrolled emotions can cause; and guide you in meeting your children’s best interest.


Being smart about divorce also means arming yourself with knowledge about the divorce process. There are many ways to research divorce. Here are a few ways that I can help you navigate the divorce process:


  • Reading the book, The Smart Divorce – available at,, and wherever books are sold.
  • My One-on-One divorce consulting can help you think strategically about the divorce process. one_on_one_consulting-pdf
  • Enrolling in one of The Smart Divorce workshops.


There was a recent article in The Toronto Star which outlines the benefits of The Smart Divorce workshops.


If you think that any of this would be helpful for you, please don’t hesitate to contact me at


Wishing you all the best during this difficult time,


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Watch Deborah on Breakfast Television

The Smart Divorce – Live


Tune in to hear me talk about coping through the holiday season…..If you haven’t seen the show “Breakfast Television” on Citytv, you may want to watch it on Monday, November 24, 2008 at 6am – 9am. I am scheduled to be on anytime after 7am. This is a live-to-air show bringing you detailed traffic, precise weather, sports updates, and entertainment plus all the hard news you really need!


Listen to Deborah provide tips and strategies for getting through the holidays when divorced – and how to cope through this time, which can be difficult for some people.


Breakfast Television airs on Citytv across Ontario.


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When your ex has somone new

When you ex has someone new


Feeling at peace with singledom when your

ex has a new partner



The emotional tide experienced through divorce doesn’t always end when your divorce becomes final. Just as you are moving forward, feeling positive, you’re faced with a new reality……..your ex has a new partner. Although you may or may not have a new relationships too, sometimes new emotions or old wounds surface.


Evaluating what you need to do to achieve happiness and hope in a new relationship requires thought, evaluation and introspection. Please click on the link to read more about tips and strategies as to how to navigate this new phase in your life postdivorce.


I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into moving on and how to prepare yourself for new relationships postdivorce; tips that apply to both men and women. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link:

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The Smart Divorce Tip Sheet



Tip Sheet


What is A Smart Divorce?


The Smart Divorce process will help you to:


  • understand the “emotional divorce” versus the “legal divorce”
  • understand the various dispute resolutions available
  • make informed decisions
  • minimize the financial, legal and emotional stress


Be SMART about your divorce.


State your goals and objectives at the beginning. Make sure these are realistic.

Maximize your information and knowledge base.

Avoid reacting to your emotions.

Retain the best possible divorce team your budget allows.

Treat your divorce as a business transaction.


How to start The Smart Divorce

Develop your support network – therapist, support groups, Clergy, divorce consultant and friends.

– interview 3 family law lawyers.

Be informed. Understand the dispute resolutions – do-it-yourself; negotiation; mediation; collaborative family law; arbitration; litigation.

Put your children’s best interests first.

Hire the right team of professionals based on your needs – parenting expert; financial adviser and others.

Get your finances in order.

Stay organized – create your divorce notebook and divorce journal.

Have a vision for how you want your life to unfold and develop strategies to get there.


You may contact Deborah by email at

or, by calling her office at 905 695 0270

Deborah Moskovitch is a divorce consultant and educator, and author of The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and Valuable Advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and Other Experts. Deborah has become an opinion leader in the media and has shared her insights and research on television and radio to explain that divorce can be managed in smarter ways.

Copyright ©2008 The Smart Divorce and Deborah Moskovitch

All rights reserved. No portion of this material may be reproduced in any form without the express written permission of Deborah Moskovitch and The Smart Divorce

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10 frequently asked divorce questions


The divorce process is often fraught with many questions. How do you know it’s the right thing to do? Do you stay together for the sake of the kids? What if I don’t trust my spouse any more and so on.


Many of these questions are answered in an article appearing in Homemakers magazine. Please click on the link to have some of your questions answered.



Being smart about divorce means asking lots of questions so that you are informed – and doing the research to answer these questions, so that you can answer for yourself – how to move forward with focus hope and confidence.

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Watch Deborah on “Three Takes”

Watch Deborah talk about

The Smart Divorce on “Three takes”

Three Takes is a lifestyle series that gets behind the scenes and reveals what being single, married and divorced is REALLY all about. It’s about women, for women, but if men want to figure us out, they’d be foolish not to watch! It’s a girlfriend’s guide to being single, married or divorced.


Single and hear your clock ticking? Married and time crunched or divorced and wondering if your time is now? The three hosts are living these lives and aren’t afraid to share. They’re self-deprecating, funny, and fearless. They’re always surprising as they unmask the truth of being a girl. It’s say what you feel and feel what you say television.


I’ve been invited to speak about The Smart Divorce and dealing with the many issues surrounding divorce and surviving the first month – on Thursday, November 6, 2008 at 12pm and 5pm ET and 9am and 2 pm PT. It’s airing nationally in Canada, so tune in to the Slice network in your area. Although this show is targeted towards women, men might find this segment informative as well.